But that erosion of honesty is a pact with the devil: it will cause us, eventually, to suffer all those emotions.
How many people feel alone, abandoned and rejected in a relationship?
There’s nothing harder than two grown-ups living together. Ferreting through a bag is symptomatic of a lack of trust.
But dishonesty causes disunity and disharmony, and, of course, your behaviour is a blueprint for your children. The dishonesty mirrors the relationship; it’s not just a single streak.
Once someone starts tinkering with honesty, it’s difficult to pretend they haven’t. What you can bear will depend on your own moral code.
It might seem an innocent little lie, but you might think, ‘why couldn’t he just be honest’?
But the temptation to tweak the truth can become irresistible.
When choosing a car, we’ll discuss every option, but, with a relationship, we’re often too afraid to state our preferences.
If you have accepted who you are, you don’t need external validation. It’s also important that we each have a secret garden.
Sometimes, being economical with the truth is not lying. Instead of standing nose to nose, stand back to back, holding hands, and retain your individual views of the world. With nothing left to discover, a relationship stagnates.