“This is the history of my body, and I wanted to get that out there.” Here, the author talks about defying accepted narratives, the importance of representation, and how watching Ina Garten changed her outlook.
“This is the history of my body, and I wanted to get that out there.” Here, the author talks about defying accepted narratives, the importance of representation, and how watching Ina Garten changed her outlook.I just did it anyway, which is how I’ve approached most of the difficult things in my life where I’m terrified, but understand I’m going to do it anyway.
I think that the reason that people can be so defensive is because of how pervasive and difficult fatphobia is.
When you finally find a community and find a way of finding peace in a world that does not want you to be at peace, in a world that wants you to pay penance for your body, you fight for that dignity and hold onto it tenaciously. I’m still learning about the community and trying to participate.
You don’t want to pay back the advance, so you’re going to write it.” So, I just, one day at a time, one page at a time, wrote the book.
This is one of the few memoirs about weight that isn’t pegged directly to a diet plan–When we’ve seen books from fat people, they’re what I like to call “Lane Bryant fat,” and you know, if I were a size 18, or a size 22, I would have a different relationship with my body.
Gay unflinchingly guides readers through an exploration of pain, desire, and the realities of her life as an overweight woman, following a cataclysmic early trauma back to the root, and recording the reverberations that event has had on the rest of her life.
Gang-raped at 12 by a band of boys led by her first crush, unwilling to tell her family what happened to her (and, in her belief, shatter their perception of her as a “good girl”), Gay used food as a coping mechanism as she sought the protection of a body she believed to be both removed from male desire and strong enough to fight back, a wish that ultimately proved destructive.
Or whatever relationship someone might have to food and fatness.
I don’t know why, but to be dismissed in that way is frustrating.
How people you devote a chapter to the difficulty of finding clothing, and in the last few years fashion has latched onto the rhetoric of body positivity, in spite of brands failing to actually increase the options available for larger sizes.
How do you feel about brands co-opting that message?